Your Wing Girl

Answers to Men’s Most Frequently Asked Questions about Love and Sex Part #2

Should I be jealous of the relationship she has with her guy friend? 

Jealous-no.  Paying attention-yes.  When it comes to guy friends the word “friend” is a euphemism for a broad range of relationship status.  A “friend” may be just that; a guy she has no intention of ever dating. A “friend” could be a friend with benefits. A “friend” could also be a guy she is considering, but has put on the back burner for you. Or a “friend” could be a guy she once had a relationship with. Keep in mind that all ex- boyfriends are fair game for sexual play or relationship round two.  He is the one you really need to keep your eye on as we rarely keep a guy we have loved around unless we see the potential for bringing him back to boyfriend status. 

How do I last longer in bed? 

The easiest way to put an end to performance anxiety is to make sure she has had an orgasm during foreplay. When she is writhing with desire, go for it with abandon.  Change positions to regain control if you’re ready to come too soon.  If you’ve come and she still wants more, use your hands, your mouth, or the dildo in her nightstand drawer. All that additional play may have you ready for round two sooner than you think. 

Can I escape the friend zone? 

My male clients sometimes speak of seeking a “friends first” relationship.  My answer to that is, friends first, friends last, friends always.  While your relationship with a lover may have many of the components of a friendship, it is a much different relationship; and therefore, must be approached in a much different manner.  You have got to keep the sexual tension present; not overt, but present.

Don’t be the guy she can tell everything and anything to. Don’t discuss past relationships. Don’t seek or offer relationship advice. Victims, whiners, and overly sensitive counselor types get kicked to the “friend zone” or to the curb.  

How long should I wait to call after getting her number? 

Too soon and it’s creepy; too long and we’re offended.  One to three days is your window of opportunity.

YWG ; ) Linda